"Feeling Blue"

This post is compelling me to write in response to behavior of others…I believe that  everyone around me thinks that they are always right….when actually what I feel is that they don’t listen to what I am trying to say….:(

Because they might not look at the things on the deeper level that I do….and u can’t expect others to think that deep…but yes I would expect others to at least listen with an open mind and try to see my perspective….but you can’t expect everyone to do that because they are different individuals….they have their own mind, their own thinking..:(

Sometimes can be very rigid…but rigidity in thinking in the 21st century seems like a weakness to me…because if something happens in their lives they don’t agree with….they feel shattered or devastated…that becomes a sort of weakness…..the same thing applies to us too if we become too rigid….these days rigidity of thinking consumes a lot energy….one should not impose their thinking on others…offer advice but don’t force anyone to follow it…

Sometimes our families(can any one from) impose their thinking on us because they are protective of us…but that protection can sometimes suffocate our soul…I have felt that for a long time and still feel it….but I do oppose when I feel that something is wrong…how strongly should one oppose or argue depends on your principles and beliefs….. but what I feel people like us can do is we should stop seeking approval of others…if you believe in yourself…..that’s enough….sometimes we would make mistakes in the process of believing in ourselves but that’s okay…that how life is…it expects you to learn from your mistakes, your pain…accept them and move on in life and improve on ourselves where ever possible….earlier people used to suppress their true selves to make others happy and seek their approval in return….but these days it isn't so…..and it shouldn't be so…..never suppress your true self…..if you are not happy with yourself you can’t make others happy….first make yourself happy then only will you be able to make others happy too….You can love someone to the degree you love your own self….if you love yourself you will yourself feel that you want to love others with the same intensity…..accept their individuality, their perceptions…:( accept them with an open mind…we are not perfect and life will not be perfect ever…but you have to learn to live well in spite of the imperfections adjust with them accept them as a part of whole package called Life….!!

Life consists of all Life-love, happiness, pain, feelings, emotions, family – Death…..in order to experience of life you have to set it free to flow….and one cannot control the flow but people always try to thinking that they can take control when they can’t……it’s like water on your palm if u keep it open it stays there if u close it slips from your fingers……!!

Change is symbol of progress…change means you are trying out a different perspective…if in the process of change you lose some people in journey of life…then just accept it that they were meant to be with you till the time they have been…people who understand you will accept even with your changed self…..those who don’t that’s their problem….maybe one day they will….look…people change…they mature with life’s experiences…people constantly change…….I have changed a lot in my life as well…..there was a point in life when I was young and I couldn't even think of writing what I just wrote…..life taught me a lot, hurt me a lot, gave me happiness too :)…but that’s all life is all about….I was an extrovert kid in school, I loved to talk to people…like to meet and make out new friends..…but then one day life did something and the process of change started for the first time in life…eventually..slowly slowly....I didn't know that a small 5 feet regular girl how to face/handle all the changes in life….But I did that,handle all the changes...But the question is...who are responsible....for the process of change to start…"Life"...then she started it….and then gave it a momentum…she was destined to be there for this purpose so she did…..

Life Changed..Totally...I'm change.. Perfectly...:)

Look I’m also like you….I keep counselling others when my own life is out of balance…..but we can counsel others because we are not in the situation itself…..we are outside and we can observe and analyse with an open mind again depending on our beliefs and principles……but why do we forget that we can’t control life….life is out of balance….our attitude towards life is imbalanced…but that does not mean we should not try to create a kind of balance…always strive for  a balanced life…but if it doesn't get balanced don’t lose heart just keep going on…..sometimes if we tweak our attitude and understanding of life we can even realize that it wasn't out of  balance but we always assumed it was out of balance…It’s all in the mind dear… :)
…The battles of Life are fought in our minds and heart not on the battlefield.
So keep Smiling and keep enjoing each & every moment of life..:)

Love & Hugs:)